1. “Don’t Enter the Debate Too Early.”
Those are the words of Nelson Mandela regarding his leadership. Listening first and speaking last lets you see the different perspectives on an issue and to give a better response. People also feel that their ideas and opinions matter. And a sense of contribution means that people are more invested in accomplishing the goal.
2. Immediate and Unambiguous Feedback
Everyone encounters obstacles in trying to reach a goal. Rather than being thrown off course, you need to adjust and roll with the punches. And the best way to adjust is getting immediate and direct feedback, either from self-evaluation or others. Learn from your mistakes while the experience is still fresh. Take notes, determine how you could have performed better and apply the lessons to your next task.
3. Evaluating Your Standards
As the proverbial boiling frog goes, we fall victim to comfort zones faster than we realize. Take some time to evaluate the standards you have for different areas of life: friends, family, dating, finances, health, work. In other words, what are you letting yourself or others get away with?
Frustrations are a helpful sign pointing you to where you need to raise your standards. That means doing things differently. Higher standards equal better results.
4. Your Threshold Illusion
When your mind is telling you that you’re done, you’re only really 40 percent done. This is one Navy SEAL’s mental hack for achieving extraordinary physical feats, including running 101 miles in just over 19 hours (in his first ever marathon). Our immediate response to any physical or mental strain is to tap-out and quit, but telling yourself that you’re only 40 percent done is a simple tool to help you ride out the short-term pain. Then you’ll experience the “second-wind” that takes you much further than you thought you could go.
5. Learn the Rules to Break the Rules
“Learn the rules like a pro, so you can break them like an artist” – Picasso.
Trying to find new hacks and better strategies is great, but don’t skim over the learning phase before breaking rules. While innovation is diverging from the status quo, you need to first know how things have always been done. Knowing the rules of your industry inside-out gives insight into which rules are unnecessary or can be taken advantage of. You can fully calculate risks and know which broken rules will incur minimal or no negative effects.
6. Cut Your Filler Words and Vocalized Pauses
Try pausing next time you are about to use a filler word or vocalized pause. The silence may be awkward to begin with, but you’ll find them getting shorter until you completely eliminate them.
Our attention spans are pulled in all directions, sharpening your speaking skills allows you to cut through the noise.
7. Ask Better Questions
8. The Extra Mile
Work ethic always trumps talent. It might be trite, but it’s true. And going that extra mile in any area of life can make all the difference. Teammates of Kobe Bryant would come to training and find Bryant covered in sweat—he’d already been training for hours. Turning up hours earlier and putting in the extra work was a habit Bryant practiced since high school.
Whether you’re preparing for a lesson plan, presentation, or job interview, spend a few extra minutes to edit, re-phrase, or research.
9. Listening Well
Two helpful tips from Simon Sinek to become a better listener: engage with specific questions; restate what you’ve been told in order to clarify.
10. Write it Down
You are 42% more likely to achieve your goals just by writing them down. Writing down your goals will give you clarity and direction. A clearly defined vision, broken down into action steps and deadlines gives you an effective game-plan, which is especially helpful for when you lose momentum or get distracted.
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